The following is a compilation of my own thoughts and points I read on carious pregnancy sites for those of us who go past our due dates:
What do you do when you are past your due date?
1- Utilize your caller id and voicemail– answer and return the calls that YOU want to. Your nosy neighbor doesn’t need to know the effacement of your cervix and you DON’T need to hear everyone’s “fail proof” inducement methods. It’s also annoying when every conversation goes like this:
“Did you have the baby yet?”
“Ooohhhh,” they say, dripping with disappointment.
“Sorry,” you say, like you could really do anything different!!!
* for some reason email and texts are not bothersome……
2- Go ahead, have a pity party- but don’t let it last more than a few hours! There will be a time when you WISH that baby was still in your belly and not screaming bloody murder at 3 am (or so I am told).
3- Make plans- and do something fun! Go out with your husband on a date (every meal could be the “last supper”!). Get a pedicure. Meet a friend for coffee.
4- Enjoy your spouse in a biblical way! – hmmm apparently what got you INTO this pregnancy can get you OUT! Or at least have fun trying.
5- Walk alot- I walked a ton with my dog during my pregnancy and I tried to keep a positive mindset on every walk after my due date. Every walk could be the last one with my dog (at least for a little while).
6- Don’t let your doctor induce you for non-medical reasons unless you are OK with that. When my doctor’s office called me w/ the time of my inducement, I was like Ummm no thanks. Just because your Blackberry is buzzing that I am a few days overdue does not mean hook me up to an IV of pitocin immediately. Give me a week at least!!!
7- Spend some time doing something that you really like to do but never have the time for– like spend the afternoon knitting and watching tv. Or read a whole novel in a day. I don’t think you get that kind of free time again until you are like 75 or something.
8- Cook some meals to freeze for after the baby is born.
9- Find a babysitter to watch your little one so you and your husband can go out for dinner after the baby is born. Make a big production of your first date as parents!!! Who cares if it’s only to the little diner down the street w/ a buy one get one coupon? It’s an accomplishment to get out of the house and an important step to keep your marriage strong after the baby bomb hits.
10- Remember that ALL babies are eventually born. Your due date is an approximation, I think the only “precise” due date can be accomplished through IVF. Your doctors could be off by a week, your counting could be off by a few days, your baby might not be ready to be born yet.
As for me, I am trying to stay positive, even though I am getting incredibly frustrated. We had a bout of false labor or prelabor yesterday- seriously thought it was the real thing! Contractions were fairly regular for about 4-5 hours in the morning, then they fizzled out in the afternoon. My husband stayed home with me yesterday because we thought that it was THE day, but alas, we were wrong.
Maybe next post will be a baby one… or maybe on my hourglass sweater progress and vintage knitting bag…